Mom Talk: Q&A With Pamela Strode of Strode Montessori

Photo: Sky and Reef Photography

“You can only control the things you can control,” Pamela Strode explains her mantra for home, work and everything in between. “From time management to modeling positive behavior, I try to put this into practice each day.” In fact, when she found out there wasn’t a Montessori center for children under the age of two anywhere on the island, she took control and started her own.

After falling in love with the Montessori approach during her master’s program at the University of Hawai‘i at Mānoa and seeing the deep need for quality early education here, she founded Strode Montessori in 2011. Now, the in-demand Downtown daycare and preschool enrolls keiki ages 6 weeks to 6 years.

As a mom of three littles herself (ages 6, 4 and 2), an educator and school administrator, Pamela knows a thing or two about the anxious, yet exciting, back-to-school season. We chatted with her to find out how her family navigates the transition and to get advice for local kids (and parents, too) on starting the new year in stride.

Finding time for myself, whether it is a workout class or getting together with girlfriends, allows me to be a better version of myself. Some days feel fun and easy, and some days feel like I’m barely keeping my head above water, but every day is an opportunity to start fresh.

I think the best thing that you can do at home from a Montessori approach is positive reinforcement. I even use it with my husband. Be very specific with your praises like, “I see you emptied the dishwasher, or there are no toys on the ground!” Verbalizing the little things that you notice can help to show your gratitude but also causes your partner or children to want to continue doing those things because they feel seen and appreciated.

Start early, very early. Many centers, like ours, have a year-long waitlist! Allow yourself time to either tour schools in-person or take virtual tours. You also need to ask the important questions: What is the school’s philosophy? What are the hours and holiday schedule? Is lunch provided? What’s your staff-to-child ratio? How do you handle discipline?

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I try to stay away from school supplies that can be distracting, so my kids pick a favorite color instead of a character for lunchboxes and backpacks. Then we label EVERYTHING! I use a Wite-Out pen for all my kids’ slippers, which stays on really well.

Our go-to these days are That’s It fruit bars and pouches, lots of pouches.

When school is closed, I like to unplug (literally) and get in the water. Our favorite is Kuli‘ou‘ou Beach Park because it’s shallow, and the kids can just run and play for days. Makapu‘u is fun, too, with the tidepools. We also go camping at Malaekahana every year with friends.

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Following Montessori principles, Strode leads the way while nourishing the children’s individual spirit and freedom of movement. Photo: Courtesy of Pamela Strode

Developed by Dr. Maria Montessori in the early 1900s in Italy, the child-centered educational approach puts an emphasis on hands-on learning, freedom of movement, and a physical environment designed to foster independence. Think: mixed-age groups, small staff-to-child ratio, orderly classrooms and choice of activities.

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